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It’s not so easy to say “no”, even its really usual to say for somene who lives outside of Indonesia, I don’t know why, people always say “yes”, the fact that they don’t really sure, that they will come in the invitation or not, this is for an example.

I just try to figure out, this is just a behaviour or its just a bad habit, and I still in process to find it.

I think the cultural play the main role for the behaviour, it is impolite to refuse, so they just say “Yes” to the others without thinking any consequences, disappointed as the result, and that is not good for the relationship between both oh them.

It’s hard to say “No”, but better we say it and let the opposite disappointed at the beginning for the temporary not for long time, than we will say yes if we know the consequences, better than we build false hopes with wishy-washy.

I know, there are a lot of trick how to do it without feeling guilty, Ah I wanna to learn and try just to say “No“.